How much do you complain?
Isaiah Hankel, in Entrepreneur magazine, writes that your problems are proportional to the amount of time you spend complaining about them. Which is to say, the less you complain, the smaller your problems will be. On the other side, the more you complain, the more your problems will grow.
Complaining merely maintains your attention on your problems, consuming energy and effort that could be more useful in the solution of the problems. The negative complaining reduces the function of your brain and affects your health in general. The more you complain, the more your anxiety and depression can grow. Our brain is programmed towards survival, and complaining is part of that survival.
But, like somebody said, if a part of the car doesn’t work, we don’t throw the car away, but rather try to fix it. But the useless complaining is like continuously pointing out what is broken about the car without trying to repair it.
What can we learn from this? If you want to attract failure and weakness, talk about your problems all the time. In fact, the more you complain, the more you harm your value and self-esteem. But it you want growth and wellbeing, talk about what makes you happy.
We can choose to leave the vicious circle of complaining, which only adds sadness and discouragement to our lives. Remember this: complaining diminishes your energy and wellbeing.
Complaining is so easy! Like the proverb says, “Instead of complaining that roses are full of thorns, be happy that the thorn bushes have roses.”
We complain much more than we realize. What can we do to diminish our complaints?
The way to diminish so much complaining is to transform the way we talk. Instead of saying, “Today will be a difficult and complicated day”, we can affirm, “Today is a great day to find solutions to my problems”. Take more time to look into the solutions and actions regarding the problem. Complaining can put us in a “victim” attitude, in that the problem is “outside” of us, and there is nothing we can do about it. So we need to ask ourselves, what are we focusing on each day? Are we choosing to complain, or are we choosing to see what our responsibility in the problem is?
Accept that only you are responsible for your attitudes and decisions. One way to change your day is to constantly practice gratefulness and generosity each day. Consider what you can do to improve your daily life. Be slower to react and take more time to reflect and meditate.
Start each day by looking into your mirror with a smile, saying, “Today is the best day of my life. I will look at life with more joy and more enthusiasm. Instead of complaining and criticizing, I will look for specific solutions to my problems.”